Don't fall in love with my tent BUT what's inside me- Men

There is a tent, specially made and really looks attractive. Anyone who sees this tent wants to draw closer, have a view and later wants to either use or possess it. The tent actually drives one category of people to its view and anytime they see it, they want to either use or possess it. The tent is the WOMAN’S BODY! The woman’s body is a tent specifically designed for a purpose- bearing fruits. Since it has different shapes and sizes, any man that sees a woman’s body wants to either use or possess it but this message is from a woman to men and it says

“Dear men, my tent is not as important as the one who lives in my tent. Don’t fall in love with my tent but the one who lives in my tent. Before you propose to me, first love the person who lives in me then seek His approval to date me. My tent is an abode to He who lives in me thus the HOLY SPIRIT!. If you can’t love Him, and then you can’t love me”.

 Now, to the Women, let a man love Him who lives in you, fellowship and be one with Him before you allow them into your tent. They must only use the tent when they own it through marriage- word of wisdom to all women. Don’t allow men to use your tent they don’t own; they must first love your landlord God, establish fellowship with him and possess the tent through marriage before using it. Don’t make your tent so free and cheap that anybody can enter and use like clay rather, it must be unique, special and expensive like gold and diamond that it will only attract responsible men to it. If you are entering into a relationship, be wise and choose the right man; a man who is not after your tent but He who lives inside you. If the man is attracted to only your tent, remember the relationship won’t last long because he will keep changing tents anytime he sees one that is nicer than yours. BE WISE!!

Always remember God first- stay blessed!!

 Nhyira

THE BATTLE OF SEXUAL DESIRE

Life is full of temptations and anyone can be tempted. If temptation comes, then it means you are above it that’s why you always write exams after you have finished with the course. You always need to overcome or defeat temptations to move to the next level; if the same temptation keeps getting you, then you’re still at the level of that temptation. Falling for temptations delays your divine growth and until you pass, you cannot move to the next level. There is a common temptation that singles and those in relationships usually face and that’s THE BATTLE OF SEXUAL DESIRE. Many singles and those in relationships are in constant battle to fight this serious temptation and hence need to be addressed. In the book of Genesis 2:25 it says and I quote “and they were both naked, the man and his wife and were not ashamed”. Therefore the only person to see your nakedness is your husband or wife not boyfriend or girlfriend. Many people are battling with sexual desire especially those who have made up their mind not to fornicate and since sex is illegal before marriage, you always try to control your lustful desires.

It is a good thing to abstain from sex before marriage but how do you overcome your sexual desires? By taming your flesh and controlling your desires. The spirit of lust has got to do with your desires and these desires are from what you set your heart, mind and affections on therefore be careful what you set your desires on. Sexual desire is part of your life once you have emotions and hormones, but needs and can be controlled. Sometimes the pornography you watch, the places you find yourselves in especially those in relationships are not conducive but you still entertain those places.

 To the singles, the best thing you can do when your sexual desires arise is to engage in activities that will take your mind off sex: visiting female friends, jogging, going out for fresh air etc. It is a daily battle that needs serious attention since God frowns on fornication. To those in relationships, help each other; you both know your weaknesses so help one another so that you don’t give in to sex. If kissing, been indoors alone, romance, would land you in sex then STOP!! Sit outdoors and chat, if you notice one is in the mood to have sex, change the environment or the activity you are in etc. It is better to deny yourselves certain things and abstain from pre-marital sex than fall prey to it.

Always remember God first- stay blessed!!!

 Nhyira

Say No To Pre-Marital Sex

There has been a controversial issue surrounding pre-marital sex and my take on it has always been positive “SAY NO TO PRE-MARITAL SEX” NO RING NO SEX”. One’s life must be guided by principles and truths or else you won’t go far. As Christians, your life is guarded by the bible and whatever God says must apply. In the book of Romans 1:1 “I beseech you brethren by the mercies of God that ye present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service” and 1Thessalonians 4:3 says “for this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication” (KJV). These two verses clarify this controversial issue and gives out a stand that God detest fornication. Sex is a blood covenant and as such why will you sleep with men/women whom you have not legally been bonded to? Now, why is God against fornication; it’s because He made it legal only in marriage and since He is a true and faithful God He will never go against His Word! Moreover, He is a Holy and Just God and does not approve of things that result in cheating.

Remember He says your body is His temple and He dwells there. If a man sleeps with you with the notion he will marry you and later leaves you for another woman, hasn’t he cheated the woman he left? If a man and woman keep changing sex partners knowing the end results could lead to all sorts of stuffs like HIV/AIDS, STDs, teenage pregnancies, broken hearts etc won’t God protect His children by making this rule that NO MARRIAGE NO SEX?. God knows some men will turn out to be irresponsible after having sexual intercourse, leaving the women and making their lives miserable some leading to teenage pregnancies. Also, these sexual intercourse may result in unwanted pregnancies causing the “not ready to be mothers” to abort innocent babies leading to murder: one mistake leading to another and the whole cycle continues. All these factors led the Father to make a sweet rule for His children that “marriage is legal for sex”. Isn’t He a loving father to detest fornication? In this same way, He hates adultery so in His records, take your time, meet the right person, marry and enjoy sex forever. Is God a wicked one to make such a good plan for His children and to tell them to stop fornicating? JUDGE FOR YOURSELF!!

Always remember God first- stay blessed!!!

Nhyira

Deny your flesh- serve SELFLESSLY

Be truthful to your calling and whatever you wish to be. People act selfishly putting others in danger. Christianity is about truth; your life must project, promote and protect the image of your Father, God. Let your life reveal and manifest Christ, bring people to the kingdom rather than scattering them away from God. As a student, your roommates know your commitment to church but because of certain attitudes and behaviors, it deters them from God. The moment you leave for church, you end up in your guy or lady’s room to fornicate, gossip about people, backbiting: are you gathering saints or scattering them? Christianity is not about attending church but fearing God in all your ways therefore sacrifice certain attitudes when necessary to keep the Kingdom of GOD full and active.

Your attitude, both actions and inactions must portray Christ and attract people to Christ, henceforth deny your flesh of certain things that will prevent people from coming into the Kingdom of God. Don’t act selfishly although you have the right to everything, not all things are expedient. The book of 1Corinthians8:9 says “but take heed lest any means this liberty of yours become a stumbling block to them that are weak”. This verse reveals that one’s freedom, in depth knowledge about God and maturity in Christ if he/she acts haphazardly can cause the born-again or weak in Christ to fall. Therefore if per your knowledge dating is good but the weak in Christ sees it as sin, guard the person to the truth before you start dating or else your freedom to date can cause that weak in Christ to fall by following your step and later mess up meanwhile you’ll be on the right path. So for the weak in Christ to be safe, why don’t you deny your flesh of that freedom, teach and guide that person and when he/she has fully understood, then you can now enjoy your freedom!!

Always remember God first……stay blessed!

 

 Nhyira

What Ought Not To Be Done pt2

      DON’T SHIRK YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES

Many women and men, when courting, perform all the necessary responsibilities, yet after marriage, they stop everything. People give so many reasons that I believe are not tangible. Please, don’t shirk your responsibilities when you’ve finally gotten married.

Some men stop paying utility bills and providing money for the upkeep of the home with the assumption that women are also working so why don’t they also take part in providing for the upkeep of the family. That’s not the best way to go about it. You can talk to your woman and let her know if your business is slowing down and you need her help with the upkeep of the family; that’s just a polite and nice way of dealing with the issue rather than avoiding your responsibilities.

Men and women sometimes deny their wives/husbands sex in the name of work and tiredness. Sex is your responsibility; do not deny your woman/man sex. How long will you continue to be tired and not desiring to have sex? On days when you’re not tired, you can satisfy them so lovingly. Do not wait for your partner to demand for sex before you do it. Study your partner to know when they’re in the mood or not; this helps to spice up the marriage. Some men wait for their wives to demand for it before they give in— that is a very bad practice.

Some women also use work as an excuse to stop cooking. How long are you going to eat outside the home; don’t you know you’re putting your health and your family’s at risk? Remember, catering for your husband and children is your responsibility so learn to blend the two—career and home. Do not deny your husband sex with the excuse of being tired or not being in the mood. When will you be in the mood? Do you want to wait until another woman takes over your responsibilities?

Don’t wait for your husband to ask before you have sex; study your husband to know when he’s in the mood. Sometimes, when he’s not, you can get him into the mood by looking sexy so that he can’t resist having you. Always lure him into having sex.

You can also support your husband in the upkeep of the house as long as you’re working; don’t allow him to carry the entire financial burden. Help him to save some money by taking care of some expenses. Give out and stop being at the receiving end always. When you go shopping and you find something that you feel will look good on him, you can surprise him with that.

Most marriages break up due to such petty situations. When one becomes so selfish and stingy in the marriage, it strains the relationship. It also makes the other partner fed up and tired of doing all the work. Marriage is about giving and receiving. At times, you could also take your husband to dinner and pay for all the expenses. It makes him respect you more. If you have not tried that then begin to do that and avoid being a receiver always. You’re a woman of virtue so let it show.

Nhyira