The tendency at
which people marry early is so absurd. Young people are rushing into marriage
and I wonder if Jesus is coming next year.
Why rush into something that is forever when you can have all the time to relax
and make the best choice? I will rather take my time, work on myself, know
and study more about what goes into it, marry at age 30 and live forever with
my spouse than rush and marry at age 22 and get divorced at age 32.
Marriage is not
a rush, it takes patience, humility, wisdom, hardwork, knowledge and understanding to
make the best decision than concentrate on love, sex and emotions and later
regret. Marriage is for the wise, humble and hardworking people not
those who are lazy because it involves work. The most painful thing is to marry
someone you think you love and later realize you married a beast and made the
wrong choice that will be too late.
The society has painted a
world where if you don’t marry, it’s like you don’t exist and loses honor in
the sight of people…thus madness. Life is not about marriage; it’s about making
impact and changing the lives of others. Right after senior high and tertiary
schools, you find people marrying who have not yet established themselves and I
ask myself “what are they in a rush for? You need to build yourself, potentials
and career, then you know you have something to depend on and as you are
building your career and purpose; the right man or woman designed to fit you
will come your path.
Parents who force their children into early marriages when they have no knowledge about it but sake of money and other reasons; it's really crazy, wise up and stop., the happiness of your children should be paramount than anything else.
Most people don’t
take their time in choosing their spouses; they center their criteria of choice
on unnecessary stuffs and later regret taking that step or path. I am not against early marriages but it should be done right. If you have established yourself at age 24
where you have a career, worked on yourself and taken some unnecessary chaffs
out, and you think you are ready for marriage why not? But even after you have established yourself at age 24 and you have
no knowledge about marriage, you should take your time to study and know more
about it through books, peoples’ experiences and observing what goes on before
you take that step.
Get to know your role as a wife or husband at your finger tips so you don’t make
anybody’s son or daughter suffer in your hands. If marriage is all about
love and sex, then I don’t think there would be many divorces recently. It takes
knowledge, understanding and wisdom to build and keep a marriage.
Take your time,
study more, learn and work on yourself before you take down the aisle. There are
certain things if you don’t tackle them and you send them into marriage; it
will destroy it. Work on those bad habits; improve on your single life because
your marriage is as good as your singleness. Be wise!!!
Always remember
God first- stay blessed!
Nhyira
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