Once you
are married and working as a woman, you become three in one. As God is the
Father, son and the Holy Spirit, I can emphatically also say, you become a
wife, mother and the career. The career begins when you leave home to the
office but the moment you come home, you ceased to be a career woman. You take
up your role as a wife and mother. When you are not able to
differentiate/distinguish the three, it becomes a problem and set confusion in
the marital home.
As a
married woman, having children or not, never use your career as an excuse to
prevent you from managing your home well. How you act will determine if your husband
will help you in your house chores or not. Even in the bible, it says wives submit first
then, husbands love your wives so your level of submission will determine the
level of your husbands’ love for you. After you’ve closed from work and
you are in the house, firstly do all your “homely” work and if your husband
doesn’t need your service at that moment, you can ask his permission and
continue with your office work if there is something to do.
Don’t allow your career to come first before your
husband/children, that’s dangerous. This is an interview between Mrs.
Gyerick& I.
Nhyira-
Welcome Mrs Gyerick, the C.E.O of Goldfield mines.
Mrs G- Thank
You Nhyira..
Nhyira- How
long have you been married?
Mrs G- Ten
years now!
Nhyira- How
has marriage been like?
Mrs G- I
must admit it was difficult for the first five years since I was very
passionate in succeeding so all my focus was on the business. I love my husband
but I was finding it difficult to blend the two: husband & career. I quite
remember I will spend most of my time in the office and come home very late but
he will be asleep most often and sometimes, he will lie on the sofa waiting for
me. When I ask, “what did you eat? he’ll just point at the take-away he bought
outside.
Nhyira- How
did you feel?
Mrs G- Very
bad, it got to a point my husband was losing weight because I wasn’t cooking
and he was eating junk foods outside. My focus was on the business more than
the marriage I have vowed to take care of him and make his need my need. Hmmm
Nhyira- How
was he holding up?
Mrs G- My
husband knew who I was before marrying me so he was up for the challenge but he
didn’t know I’ll get to the extreme. He was able to hold on for a while but
when he realized I wasn’t coming back to my senses, he began to react. That
started the quarrels, misunderstandings and sometimes no communication.
Nhyira- Can
you tell us what happened?
Mrs G- When
I told him we should wait for my business to boom before we start having
children; that really put him off. It got to a point; I’ll always give excuses
for sex. Hmmm Nhyira my career turned me into a beast at home. I seldom cooked,
checked up on my husband and I was most times tired when I got home. Will bath
and just drop myself on the bed to sleep.
Nhyira- Woow, then it was serioooous.
Mrs G- Yeah
it was my dear. I’ll leave the house as early as 6:00am to dodge traffic and
come back around 9:00pm, wash down, get to bed and sleep. All I will say is
goodnight if only he is not sleeping. Can you believe on Saturdays too, I will
leave for seminars and wouldn’t be in the house?
Nhyira- So
what changed, how were you able to manage the home?
Mrs G- Hmmm
Nhyira, when I unexpectedly got pregnant. It slowed me down; I was mostly at
home from the sixth month because my doctor advised me to rest. I’ll cook, tidy
the house and have a long conversation with my husband when he got home. He
will pamper me; ask me of my next project after birth….. I then realized all he
wanted was to care for me, love and even help me with my business. I missed a
lot when I was busily burying myself haahaaha.
Nhyira- Woow!
How did you turn things around?
Mrs G- After
my first child, I drew a line between my career and marital home. When I get
home, I sync myself my career is over and zoom into my wifely/motherly role.
Will put my baby to sleep with my husband by reading bedtime stories; after
that, we’ll discuss our day at work, what happened and then have fun in bed
haahahaa. My eyes opened that “your family” is
very important than the work. They should come first before any other thing
because if anything bad happens to you, it’s your family that will be there for
you not the work. When I go home, I don’t receive work calls- it’s time for my
husband & children and that has helped me. I make sure my husband &
children are satisfied and I try as much as possible to spend time with them
especially weekends. He is a doctor but still tries to help me with my
business.
Nhyira- Your
final words/advice to career ‘married’ women.
Mrs G- Know your limit, apportion your time,
direct your focus well and know that when you get into trouble, your career
won’t save you and give you the necessary care and attention but your family
thus husband and children will, so make them your priority.
Nhyira- Thank
you for honoring my invitation!!!
Always remember God first- stay blessed!
Nhyira
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