REACHING THE FINAL DESTINATION

Marriage is the final destination. Every relationship that thrives on good motives always reaches the final destination, which is marriage. It has its issues as everything else does; however, God is more concerned about it.

Genesis 2:18 says, “Then the Lord God said, it is not good for the man to live alone, I will make a suitable companion to help him.” Marriage was God’s idea and He approves of it. Most people do not take their time when choosing their life partners, thus making mistakes and later regretting, which results in divorce which God hates.

In recent times, about 70% of marriages are dissolved in Ghana. I have always wondered what causes break-ups in marriage. Marriage is very essential and I cherish it so much because God has really touched my heart regarding it. If you get into a bad marriage, that’s the end of your life because it slowly destroys your life as well as your future. This is why I first introduced you to the right route in reaching the perfect destination.

Marriage holds your life, future and everything of yours and as such, one needs to give it a lot of attention. Many of my family members have suffered bad marriages that’s why I am so passionate about it. Before there can be a good marriage, there should be sacrifice, mutual understanding, consensus building, trust, love, and care.

Marriages require sacrifice; partners should be willing to make sacrifices for each other. To sacrifice is to give up something valuable in order to maintain a relationship. Sacrifice should be reciprocal in a marriage; one partner should not always be the one to benefit from sacrifices. The other partner should also be willing to sacrifice when necessary so that one person does not find him/herself being the only one making sacrifices. There are times in a relationship where one would offend the other due to their different characters, attitudes, and egos—this is the time you have to show your partner how much you cherish him or her. Such offenses can be so painful and tough that you may think divorce is the best solution; however, you can opt not to break the marriage.

Marriage is not the same as an ordinary relationship in which you can just opt out when you get tired of the person. In marriage, there is nothing like that—you have to endure a lot of tough situations. A typical illustration is the story of Abraham and Sarah in the Bible. They went through a lot of hardship, but they were determined and trusted each other. They refused to get divorced, but endured to the end.

Most couples can’t endure marriage without children for even two years. They soon begin looking for opportunities to opt out. . You have to know also that marriage goes beyond two people saying vows. I don’t think couples realize that when you marry someone, you also marry that person’s family. Having good relationships with the in-laws is important. Anyone who has had conflicts in that arena will tell you that bad relationships with in-laws can be a nightmare.

If you see signs of trouble before the marriage, I’d advise you to address those problems before you get married.

According to Joni Lamb, Daystar Television Network’s co-host of celebration, she said there are ten challenges in marriage which most couples find it difficult to deal with which are

• ·         Putting God first in the marriage
• ·         Managing money and financial pressures
• ·         Communicating effectively and resolving conflict
• ·         Being in agreement on how to raise children
• ·         Putting your spouse before your children
• ·         Dealing with addictions ( drugs, alcohol, abuse, pornography)
• ·         Maintaining  a healthy sex life
• ·         Learning to forgive one another
• ·         Handling health issues
• ·         Balancing schedules.

I can emphatically say that’s very true and as such you need to take note of it.
Always remember God first!!
Have a blessed week

Nhyira