What Ought Not To Be Done pt2

      DON’T SHIRK YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES

Many women and men, when courting, perform all the necessary responsibilities, yet after marriage, they stop everything. People give so many reasons that I believe are not tangible. Please, don’t shirk your responsibilities when you’ve finally gotten married.

Some men stop paying utility bills and providing money for the upkeep of the home with the assumption that women are also working so why don’t they also take part in providing for the upkeep of the family. That’s not the best way to go about it. You can talk to your woman and let her know if your business is slowing down and you need her help with the upkeep of the family; that’s just a polite and nice way of dealing with the issue rather than avoiding your responsibilities.

Men and women sometimes deny their wives/husbands sex in the name of work and tiredness. Sex is your responsibility; do not deny your woman/man sex. How long will you continue to be tired and not desiring to have sex? On days when you’re not tired, you can satisfy them so lovingly. Do not wait for your partner to demand for sex before you do it. Study your partner to know when they’re in the mood or not; this helps to spice up the marriage. Some men wait for their wives to demand for it before they give in— that is a very bad practice.

Some women also use work as an excuse to stop cooking. How long are you going to eat outside the home; don’t you know you’re putting your health and your family’s at risk? Remember, catering for your husband and children is your responsibility so learn to blend the two—career and home. Do not deny your husband sex with the excuse of being tired or not being in the mood. When will you be in the mood? Do you want to wait until another woman takes over your responsibilities?

Don’t wait for your husband to ask before you have sex; study your husband to know when he’s in the mood. Sometimes, when he’s not, you can get him into the mood by looking sexy so that he can’t resist having you. Always lure him into having sex.

You can also support your husband in the upkeep of the house as long as you’re working; don’t allow him to carry the entire financial burden. Help him to save some money by taking care of some expenses. Give out and stop being at the receiving end always. When you go shopping and you find something that you feel will look good on him, you can surprise him with that.

Most marriages break up due to such petty situations. When one becomes so selfish and stingy in the marriage, it strains the relationship. It also makes the other partner fed up and tired of doing all the work. Marriage is about giving and receiving. At times, you could also take your husband to dinner and pay for all the expenses. It makes him respect you more. If you have not tried that then begin to do that and avoid being a receiver always. You’re a woman of virtue so let it show.

Nhyira