What Ought To Be Done(General)pt1

      SUBMISSIVENESS

Most married men believe that only women need to be submissive in marriage. They are very wrong. Ephesians 5:21 says, “Wives and husbands, submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ.” Some women who are richer and better-looking than their husbands feel that they do not need to be submissive because they can get anything they want on their own.

It’s totally wrong for women to think that way. The book of Ephesians 5:22 and 24 says that wives should submit to their husbands as to the Lord. Wives must therefore submit completely to their husbands just as the Church submits to Christ.

One might argue that wives who are rich and beautiful not submitting to their husband is not tangible. Well, I have a practical example. I have a cousin, who is so beautiful and independent. She found a man she loved and they got married. Her husband lived in Accra and she lived in Kumasi. A time came when her husband lost his job and had to stay at home for months. He was seriously searching for a job.

Since the woman had a lot of money, she started to control her husband, asking him to do things that a man is normally not required to do. One time, her husband asked her to come over to Accra but she bluntly refused his request. There were times she wouldn’t answer his calls just to spite him.

A friend of mine also did the same thing in her marriage. In her situation, the man was not that good-looking and she was a very beautiful woman. She decided to control him, making him feel that if he did not succumb, someone might snatch her from him. The man felt threatened by her beauty and since he loved her, he decided to obey her whether she was wrong or not.

This scenario happens in many marriages. Its high time women begin to fear God and stop controlling their husbands.

      LOVE

Love is patient, kind, forgiving, long suffering, caring, gentle, enduring and welcoming. Love is very important in marriage; it conquers everything. God demonstrated His love towards us by allowing his ONLY begotten son Jesus Christ to come and die in order for us to be saved and to gain redemption. Married men and women ought also to love themselves unconditionally, putting aside their egos and pride.

To the men, Ephesians 5:25-33 says, “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it. He did this to dedicate the church to God by His word, after making it clean by washing it in water, in order to present the church to Himself in all its beauty—pure and faultless, without spot or wrinkle or any other imperfection.”

Therefore, men ought to love their wives just as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself. (It is not normal for people to hate their own bodies; they feed them and take care of them, just as Christ does the church, for we are members of His body).

As the scripture says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife; and the two will become one.” There is a deep truth revealed in this scripture in addition to its meaning concerning Christ and the church—every husband must love his wife as himself.

Men usually do not show how much they love their wives or how they truly feel about them. They hide it within because they feel that if a woman knows how much you love her, she will take advantage of you. It’s an unhealthy thing to do in a relationship.

Love is sharing. Love is not self-seeking. It never gives up even when the going becomes tough. It is not selfish, always wanting to excel higher than the other. Rather, love is about helping each other, complimenting and praising your lover always.

Love is long-suffering. Consider the love Jacob had for Rebecca. He was willing to work an additional seven years just to be with her. You must learn to endure a lot if you truly love someone. 


Always remember God first!!
Have a blessed day!!

Nhyira