BURY THE PAST

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Most people hold onto the past so much that it prevents them to see their bright future clearly. They always refer to the past which haunt them anytime they want to focus on the future. What is holding you to the past? It might be the memory of him/her and you and what are you doing about it anytime you recall it?

Burying over the past isn’t easy but with God on your side, you can make it. The best way to get over the past is by making a decision not to go back or hold onto him/her again.

When you hold onto him/her thinking he might come back again for you two to start again; that’s where the problem lies but, if you’re able to make that bold decision of not holding onto him/her, your mind becomes free.

Bob Gass in the same book also said and I quote “Recognize when something is dead. No amount of work will resuscitate a corpse, so sign the death certificate, bury the past and move on. That doesn’t mean you’re quitting- it just means you’re conserving your strength for the things that count, and about which you can do something”.

He’s dead and gone, he doesn’t love you anymore; no matter what you try to do, you can’t win his/her love again so just sign the death certificate, bury the past and move on.

You may ask how do I sign the death certificate? By telling yourself “he/she won’t come back again, he’s gone; he/she doesn’t love me so I’ve to move on”. 

What are you dragging around from your past- old scars or a torch for somebody who’s already moved on? God’s word to you today is “throw it away”. You’re sacrificing your future to an idol (man/woman) that is not worth of your worship (love, pain, sufferings) while he/she is happy, eating and growing fat and you’re rather starving yourself to death. Remember when you die, he/she might weep just the day of your burial and move on with his/her life so why are you killing or destroying your precious life all because of a man/woman.

Stand up, take up your cross and follow Jesus. Forget about the past; anytime your mind sets you to the past just refuse to adhere to it. Get something to do when that happens- you can sing, pray, study the bible, take a walk or even visit friends. Don’t allow your mind to control you, rather you control it.

I will always say getting over the past is not easy but it takes a bold decision to overcome it. That thing(s) that is dragging you to the past should be dealt with. I used to remember our terrific trips, his messages and pampering words but one day I said to myself “I refuse to think about him and all that happened between us, I’m moving forward and there is no going back”. I stuck to that bold decision and now I am healed. I also listened to encouraging songs like “God will make a way”, “my redeemer lives”, “it wasn’t easy”, “I know that I can make it” “Jesus take the wheel”, among others. These songs are inspirational and motivating: they encouraged me to be on my feet.

Jesus even concluded that the rejection of men was “the Lord’s doing”. Joseph did say that too after he’d been betrayed by his brothers; he said “you thought evil against me but God meant it unto good” (Genesis50:20). Can you say that too? I can say that instead of being obsessed over what somebody is doing or has done to you, can you see what God is also doing for you?

I always use myself as an example; after dealing with my broken-heart, I realized it was also meant for good to others  because I’ve gained strength to advice people who are in such situations and they’ve have also recovered to be other’s guide. If I hadn’t experience it, I wouldn’t be in the best position to write this book.

Sometimes when bad things happen, you worry a lot but at the end you see the Lord’s glory. Don’t let the pain you’re in to shatter your dreams and aspirations. Get up, stop sleeping In the past, bath with a different kind of strength from the Lord and put on I’ve signed the death certificate and wear I’ve bury the past sandals. Don’t walk into the past for you’re in the “bury the past sandals”.

Gather all the strength you have now and make a never-turning back decision for the past is like a chain, the moment you walk out of it, it breaks and leave you to go freely. The enemy is such a trickiest person that the moment you feel you’re okay and that you have forgotten the past, that’s where he plays his trick on you.

You might either receive his/her call or your friends might raise his/her picture again, that’s the moment you have to stoop to your grounds and let your “NO” be “NO”. If you allow your emotions to lead you always, you’ll always be in trouble. Never give way to your emotions; sometimes gather strength and let your mind decide rather than your emotions.

At first, I used to allow my feelings to decide for me and always landed me into trouble but now I analyze issues critically by letting my emotions be least in the analysis. You can also do that, think hard before you act. Emotions are like toffees; once eaten the “sweetness” taste doesn’t appear again. Your tongue comes to its original state again that’s why it is dangerous to make decisions based on emotions.

Another way to get over the past is not making decisions based on what people say. If you do that, it’ll be difficult for you to get over the past since those decisions made aren’t from you but from what others have said. If I had listened to the opinions of my friends, I wouldn’t be writing this because I would have still been in my pain and still be finding my way out.

 Remember at the end of the day you’re the victim, they aren’t so do things that you won’t regret or be at a disadvantage. You can listen to your friends but don’t let what they say be your final decision.

Always remember God first- stay blessed!

Nhyira