Hey
Nhyira, life has been good and wonderful… I keep smiling everyday ever since I
got married. My marriage is the best ever….is full of love, understanding,
respect and prayer. Marriage is sweet and it’s worth the wait. I’ve been
married for the past 5years and things are still smooth, we do argue sometimes
but my husband and I have ways of dealing with our differences. We don’t invite
third parties into the marriage, when something goes wrong, we solve it. We
don’t discuss marital issues with friends; it’s private and should remain as
such. When people get to know what’s going on in the marriage, that’s when they
cook up unnecessary lies and stories just to destroy it.
One
funny thing that has really helped us is that our in-laws don’t just come and
visit without informing us. Marriage is a different/third family altogether,
IN-LAWS don’t just come in and go….if my mum wants to visit, she has to inform
my husband and I before she comes over vice versa. In-laws sometimes are the
cause of most break ups so far as the person is your son or daughter doesn’t
mean you should disrespect their matrimonial home; when you want to visit, ask
permission….sometimes the couple need space and privacy. This approach has
really helped us and we thank God our in-laws really understand and fully
cooperate with us.
Nhyira,
my husband is really quick-tempered due to this; I’ve learnt when to speak
anytime his form of visage changes. When he gets angry and starts talking, I just
keep quiet, listen to him and when he is done all I say is “please
I’m sorry for making you rage with anger but when you cool down and give me the
chance, I’ll let you know what you’re angry about is really wrong”. After this, he will stare at
me and leave to the bedroom waiting for me to get in so he’ll also apologize to
me. Hmmm, men and their ego!! You need to study your partner very well in other
to live peaceably with them. If I had also talked back, it could have created a
whole lot of issues. Where he/she falls short, you have that strength to help
them as well as your short fall is also their strength- learn how to compliment
and help each other deal with their weaknesses.
Marriage is all about understanding, respect, love, prayer
and submissiveness. We do pray a lot, we never forget our good LORD because He
holds our marriage. He is our shield and we always seek for His wisdom and
knowledge in our marriage. Although misunderstanding arise, we still find a way
to make the marriage sweet and lovely…..it all depends on the couples whether
to make it work or not.
Marriage is worth the wait, don’t rush, take your time to
study the person and really invest much prayer into it. If you respect your
husband or wife, he/she too will do the same. Never let your marriage lose
respect for each other- that’s dangerous. I will share more of my experiences
you help anybody reading this to improve their relationships. Let your journey
to marriage count….BE WISE!!
Always
remember God first- stay blessed!!
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