Hey peeps, it's a beautiful morning, enjoy and embrace it well!! Live life to the fullest!!
Secrets
to a successful marriage/relationship
Can
there be a marriage without stress, depression, quarrels and troubles? Yes
there can be but it all depends on wisdom and in-depth knowledge. Everything on
earth has a purpose but not all purposes are known therefore where purpose is
unknown, abuse is inevitable. If you don’t know the purpose of marriage, you
will abuse it that’s why the bible says “my people perish for lack of knowledge”.
The greatest enemy to human is not sin but ignorance because it destroys-
through ignorance sometimes most people commit folly.
Marriage is not for the weak but for the strong- people who have
researched and have gained in-depth knowledge about it. You don’t marry to
satisfy your loneliness, boredom, financial constraint among others; therefore
if you get married for these reasons, you surely might end in a bad state.
Marriage is for singles; people who
have learned to develop their individual self and feel whole, unique and
separate.
Singleness is not living without a
spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend but the ability to live all by yourself, cater,
nourish, grow and develop your human skills, the ability to feel complete and
one of a kind, not needing anybody to feel special but already in that state.
If you are able to bring out your singleness,
then you can live with someone thus get married. If you want to get married to
ease your loneliness, you will realize marriage rather manifest or exposes
loneliness- it doesn’t take loneliness away.
Sometimes
the bad things you experience in marriage or relationships are through what you
set your desires on, so the bible says in James 1:13 that “Let no man say when he is tempted,
I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempt he any
man” and the same bible says in Mathew 26:41 “watch and pray, that ye enter
not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak”,
therefore temptations are there but one can also escape them. Your marriage can
be as successful as your singleness.
When
you study the bible very well, you will realize Adam didn’t know he was alone
meaning
AL-ONE until God said so….you might THINK you are ready to be in a
relationship or marry but in God’s eyes you aren’t. It is advisable you ask
your creator before you make any decision concerning your life.
Moreover,
in considering marriage and relationship, you need to understand who
a man and woman is, their different needs before you decide to commit. The man
has been created in such a way to be a giver whiles the woman is a receiver so if
you don’t understand who a woman is and her needs how can you get married to
her vice versa. A woman needs love
and a man needs respect, if you are ignorant of this, how can you meet both
needs? In the book of Ephesians 5:22&25 it says and I quote, “wives, submit
yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord and husbands, love your
wives even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it”. Men don’t
need love but women do. The man has been created to give and the woman at the
receiving end therefore if you understand this concept; you won’t be weary when
women want more- that’s their nature.
If
you shower a man with gifts it doesn’t move him much because he doesn’t need affection, he needs sex. Women need affection
so the man’s (husband) duty is to show the wife affection whiles the wife is supposed
to also satisfy him sexually. Therefore, the husband must know and learn
how to love his wife and the wife has the responsibility to learn how to
respect and submit to her husband.
Marriage
is deep, but people rush into it; you need more wisdom, knowledge and understanding
in this field.
Marriage is for singles, people who know
themselves, value their worth, understand their nature and responsibilities,
able to live independent of each other and can satisfy one another without
conditions and expectations. Marriage is not for children but adults;
people who know what they are getting into.
Read
more to enlighten yourself and never forget your creator, God, to always seek
for wisdom, knowledge and understanding. God didn’t say it is not good for man
to be SINGLE BUT ALONE therefore singleness is good, it helps you to discover
and shape yourself so that when you marry you are still YOU- Unique,
separate and whole. Alone
doesn’t mean singleness or lonely but in the Greek it means AL-ONE!! It is not good for man to be exclusive, all-one, solitary etc
therefore man has a lot to give so he need not be al-one but share what lies
within.
I
hope you’ve been enlightened; it shall be continued. Watch out for part
2!!!!!!!!
Always
remember God first- stay blessed!!
twitter: @PriscillaBaffo3
No comments:
Post a Comment