Fantasy- "ideal guy/ ideal lady syndrome. My Prince Charming vs Your Cinderella
Which
world are you living in; the fantasy world or the real
world. Many people are living in the world of fantasy that they don’t
recognize real things. It even happens in the area of relationship when
people have serious imaginations about their “ideal guy/lady” but later end up
marrying opposite of their imaginations. The question is “what happened to their fantasies or imaginations? Why didn’t they marry
the person they perceived or imagined?
\The
marriage
thing, and the perfect person or God doesn’t give you what you don’t like
syndrome has become a serious issue which needs to be addressed. Marriage is real therefore if fantasy is associated with it, it
becomes a threat. The perfect
person everybody is claiming does not exist; you meet the person
as a raw material then, you work it out to become finished products.
He or she becomes the “perfect person” after you’ve
processed (studied, sorted out
weaknesses and strengths, likes and dislikes) into what you need and was
looking for.
God
doesn’t give you what you don’t like but your fantasies or “ideal
guy” or “ideal girl” syndromes are not realistic either. How
many ladies don’t want a well built, 6pack tall guy, yet end up married to an
average body type guy who happens to be the man of their destiny and makes them
happy.
You
see, some of our “ideal person” or “this is the type I want principle” is
just influenced by environment and what time and genetics have shaped us for. Some ladies want thick
tall guys who are hairy sake of how their dad, brother or uncle look like and
it does really influence their choice of guys meanwhile in the plan of God you
need a medium/average guy who will make you happy.
Moreover,
some guys want coca-cola or wide hips body shape ladies because
of what they have in the family or their experience with some. All these
factors lead people into the world of
fantasy when a slim, cute lady could be the best to match his type.
In
the end, God gives you His best, if you depend on God’s choice because every
good and perfect gift comes from God and you will realize that even though it
is not your fantasy, it (the person) happens to be what your innermost heart has
always been searching for. The person even compliments or helps you to fulfill
destiny.
NB:
Your ideal person for yourself may not necessarily be God’s ideal person for
you. Don’t be entangled in this fantasy that you miss your future husband or
wife when they come.
Always
remember God first.
Nhyira
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