Take The Band-Aid Off

I was reading Bishop T.D Jakes book “Woman thou Art loosed” and he said something that really motivated me. He said “One day I hurt my knee so my teacher placed Band-Aid on it. When I got home, my mother removed the Band-Aid and said when you get hurt or there is sore and you put Band-Aid on it, it prevents the sore from healing rather, it makes it enlarge and affect other areas. Then he went on to say, anytime you’re hurt, just take the Band-Aid off and pour out your pain”         .

What this means is that, anytime you’re hurting and you keep the pain inside you without expressing it, you’re just killing your soul. Take the Band-Aid off, allow air to pass through the sore and be healed. Many at times you just stay in the room weeping, refusing to eat, drink and sleep. That wouldn’t help; you’re just destroying yourself. Some would also pretend that they’re strong and the break-up has not affected them but inwardly, they’re hurting badly. If you have watched “why did I get married too” by Tyler Perry, you realized that Patricia after pretending that everything was going on well with her marriage whiles it wasn’t, she later on got more depressed to the extent of leading her husband unto his untimely death.

Don’t cover your wound for it to enlarge and affect other areas. Just open it, let people know you’re heart-broken: suffering inwardly and outwardly. Your concerned friends are ready to help you, care for you and be there also for you. Don’t think they just pity you; they’re showing you how much they love you and want to be there for you.

When you open your sore, it helps others to know how to treat it. If you’re hurting inside and people do not know, how will they help you? The moment you take the Band-Aid off, they get to know where the sore has reached and how they can help cure it before it enlarges and affects other areas like your studies, health, work and others.

If you know you’re hurting inside because of a break-up and you’re acting as if you’re strong to your friends, family and loved ones, then I’m telling you to stop. That doesn’t make you strong, rather you’re a coward and you’re not able to face difficult situations. Open up, it’s normal for them to know you’re hurting and they’ll also understand. That makes you a strong person; showing them that you’re human and have feelings too.

Stop putting your life at risk by showing the world you’re strong outwardly but inwardly you’re dying slowly. Take the Band-Aid off and give them the chance to help you recover fully. It’s also not easy to take the Band-Aid off when people see you as a strong woman or man; able to stand on principles and make hard decisions but show them that no matter how strong you’re, when it comes to emotions, you can also break down.

They’ll understand because even a tree which is very rigid, hard and able to withstand strong winds sometimes fall when the winds are too strong for their control: how much more you who is human, made up of feelings- flesh and blood and is able to react to pain?

If you’re reading this article and you know what I’m saying implies to you, please take the Band-Aid off and allow people to help you to overcome the pain so that you may also stand in the gab to help those who are also in your shoes..

Don’t be too stubborn; open up for healing and listen to others. If you truly want to live for people to still see you as their mentor then pay heed to this advice you’re receiving. What are friends and family for? They are there to help you in these times, and to be your source of light and lead you to the right path. Surrender yourself with good friends also so that they don’t make fun of you when you encounter such a situation.

This incident also truly reveals the true nature of your friends; whether they’re what you think they’re or not. Please, let people know you’re suffering within; let that be a signal to them that you actually need help. When I was hurting inside, my actions did spoke for me. I took the Band-Aid off and made my friends to know how I was badly hurting inside and how I badly needed help.

 I took my Band-Aid off and I received treatment which has made me to be healed. Two of my friends were so committed to me during that horrible situation. They never left me alone because they didn’t know what I would do been left alone.

They did encourage me with their words, actions and made me to face life. They will always tell me if I die right now, that guy that I’m really killing myself for will just attend my funeral, leave, marry and have a bright future but I would be six feet underground. These words made me to start putting my life back.

If I hadn’t taken the Band-Aid off, I wouldn’t have received such powerful words. Those words always reflected my mind anytime I thought of doing something stupid. I began to eat, go out for fresh air and face the world again. I stopped staying in the room; I went out with my friends for lunch, watch productions to mention but few, just to release the pain. It did help my recovery a lot.

I suggest you visit play productions or cinemas when there is comedy show; you’ll just laugh and laugh, forgetting about what lies within you. This is also a way of taking the Band-Aid off. Facing the real world again and telling them you are back on your feet with a little strength but not fully recovered. Make your mind up and don’t turn back to your old ways of dealing with your broken-heart, listen to this advice and take the Band-Aid off.

Always remember God first- stay blessed!!

Nhyira