b4 starting the journey of relationship pt2a

 I have formed an acronym for relationship to help us understand what relationship is all about. The first 3letters for relationship is R,E,L which is:

·         RESPECT

So many relationships have broken up due to lack of respect. Many young women and men in this contemporary world lack respect for the elderly, how much more their own mates! It’s so sad to see two lovers standing in public, exchanging unpleasant words, sometimes resulting into a fight. Respect is needed in a relationship. You may come from a home where there is no respect for anyone—you need to change this attitude if you desire to be in a relationship. Respect means recognizing our own worth and the worth of others.

EXAMINATION

Examination here refers to self-examination. You need to examine yourself thoroughly. Get to know yourself. Find out what you like, dislike, the type of man or woman you want, what you are able to do naturally. Are you quick tempered, loving, caring, among others? You need to know all these things about yourself before getting into a relationship

·               LOVE

This is one of the most important virtues you need before you enter a relationship. You need to love yourself, appreciate who you are, whether short, tall, fat, slim, dark or fair because if you do not love yourself it will be difficult for you to know if someone loves you. You will have unrealistic expectations of your partner since you

actually do not love yourself—this can lead to problems in relationships.

After learning to love yourself, you then prepare to love the one who has actually come into your life genuinely, without compromising on your values. Some women compromise in relationship—this is not a healthy thing to do. Let the man accept you for who you are and love you not because of something he is getting from you...............to be continued
Nhyira