JOURNEY ON A TARRED ROAD

When I was a child, my mum used to say she preferred traveling to Ghana's capital city Accra rather than our village because the road to Accra was tarred, unlike the route to our village. I would laugh whenever she said that but I didn’t know she was speaking in proverbs.

After my senior high education, I decided to travel to Accra to experience for myself. During the journey, the road was so smooth,this made the journey cool and exciting. I enjoyed the journey because I felt so comfortable, relaxed and happy when we got to Accra.

Although there were a few potholes, that did not disrupt the journey at all.Relationship can be likened to a journey. When your relationship is journeyed on a tarred road, there is comfort, relaxation, happiness, joy, love, protection, security and excitement.

When you begin the journey (relationship) on a smooth road, you can easily dodge the potholes (misunderstandings) or fall into it and move on again.

What this means is that when misunderstanding occurs, some people easily solve it without turning into a big problem. The offender quickly accepts his/her mistake, apologizes (dodges the pothole) and makes amends (moves onto the smooth road again).

In relationships, others also wait for the potholes to be filled up by others before they move out of it. Some elders, pastors and friends come in to help resolve these matters (fill up the pothole) before they start afresh again (move onto the tarred road). Relationship journeyed on a tarred road leads to the following:

·         COMFORT

I felt comfortable during my journey because the car moved so fast without stopping—the road was good which ensured a comfortable journey. This means that a relationship journeyed on a smooth road will go so smoothly without breaking up and eventually lead to marriage.

A comfortable relationship is one where you feel loved by your partner and there isn’t the need to worry about your partner cheating. Being comfortable brings about relaxation since you don’t have to check your partner’s phone, diaries and other private stuff to ensure he or she is not cheating. You don’t waste your time and energy on the wrong things; all you do is to move smoothly on the journey because you are sure that the car won’t break down on the way.

·         HAPPINESS

Reaching your destination brings about joy and happiness. Getting married to the right man or woman brings about so much happiness since your needs, whether sexual, emotional, physical and spiritual, are always satisfied. A journey made on a tarred road leads you safely to your destination; therefore, a relationship journeyed on smooth road leads you to marriage. .

·         PROTECTION

There is protection in your relationship since God protects you and watches over your relationship. As you pray every day, committing your life and the journey you are on unto Him, he makes sure that nobody (including the enemy) comes to destroy it. For His word says in Ephesians 6:12 that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities, evil doers, workers of iniquity, and all powers of darkness so He shall surely protect you from such wicked people.

·         SECURITY

Just as the driver feels secure when he is on a road that is unlikely to give him any problems, so also people in relationships feel secure about each other and the journey they are on. When one has confidence in his or her partner, there is security and they need not worry about thieves (another man or woman) invading their house (relationship) and stealing their belongings (husband or wife to be).

When all these needs are met, the journey to marriage becomes enjoyable and trouble-free and it ends successfully (marriage).

 Nhyira