Self- Examination pt2

After you’ve got your car, acquired your strong engine, and fueled it, you need the master key because one key cannot match all cars; every car has its own key.

      THE MASTER KEY

The key enables the car to move and without it, the car becomes static and immobile. The master key signifies prayer. Prayer is the master key to every situation; without it, one cannot make it in life. The Bible even says in 1Thessalonians 5:17 that we should pray without ceasing, because the moment you stop praying, your enemies gain  advantage to destroy you. Prayer answers everything. When you begin to pray fervently, your journey will be glorious.

Prayers build up your spiritual being, making your spirit lead you rather than your flesh. The book of Isaiah 62:6-7 says, “O Jerusalem, I set upon your walls watchmen to guide you, do not keep silent those who call upon the name of the Lord for I have set my angels to hear whatever you say and establish it.” Prayers concerning your relationships should not be toyed with.

Pray until the Lord hears and establishes you. God reveals himself to you anytime you pray and He even directs your path, for His word says in Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not unto your own understanding; in all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths.”

Trusting God through prayers will open many closed doors to you. Sometimes, when the men or women around you are many and you have to choose among the lot, it’s easy to make a wrong decision if you are not careful. At such a time, you need to pray fervently for God’s guidance and direction.

Start your car with the master key so that when those who use other keys fail, you’ll rather triumph for your key worked and succeeded above all the ordinary keys.

After acquiring the master key, you need to check the tyres, whether they are hard or flat.

      THE TYRES

Every car has tyres just as every relationship involves a man and a woman. The tyres hold the car; without it, the car cannot move. Without a man or woman, there cannot be relationship. One needs someone in his/her life before starting this journey. Now, this is what a woman and a man trying to get into relationship that would lead to marriage can assess:

      THE FIRST TYRE (MAN)

If you are a man, you need to get a woman of substance in your life before you embark on this journey. This moment is crucial; one needs to be very careful and vigilant. A woman of substance is one who fears the Lord as Proverbs 31:30 says, “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”

You need ask yourself so many questions.  Are the qualities the woman exhibits the ones you desire? Does she respect people? Is she a Christian or not? If she’s a Christian, does she fear God? What can she do naturally? Can she cook well? Is she a family woman? All these questions must have answers.

Moreover, you have to cross-examine her very well; the way she speaks, how she reacts when she’s angry, disturbed, hurt, among others. Also, how does she dress? Is it decent or not? Find out her educational level and the family to which she belongs. Most of all, do you love her genuinely or is it just her beauty that attracts you to her.

 As a woman is a HELP-MEET, you must make sure the woman’s purpose is in line with your Vision so that both of you can fulfill destiny.

      THE SECOND TYRE (WOMAN)

As a woman, you also need a man of value and in whose vision lies your purpose. Remember it’s not advisable to base your selection of a man on only physical qualities—that is dangerous. According to Plato, a Greek political thinker, there are three qualities competing in the human soul—REASON, the ability to think and make great decisions; APPETITIVE, one’s desires to eat, drink, have sex and learn; and SPIRITED, which talks about one’s anger, courage, tameness, shyness, among others. He asserts that a man can be JUST if the appetitive and spirited submit to the reason always. If you are someone who always loves eating, sex, and partying, then your appetitive quality is above the reason and spirited. When it comes to a relationship, one has to put reason above the other qualities. Don’t allow the man’s physique only to attract you, but his inner qualities too—caring, gentle, loving, humble, and respectful.

In addition, check the way he speaks: Does he talk about the future? Does he include you anytime he talks about the future? Has he ever told you that you’ll be the mother of his children someday? How does he relate to his family members, especially the women? Is he hardworking or lazy? Is he a family man?

I want you to remember this always: Boys build shacks but men build homes, so watch out. Get a man who fears God because they always act with diligence, make their wives happy, hate to cheat and do not mingle or spend a lot of time with friends.

Now that the tyre has been fixed, the journey must begin; however, there is one thing you need to know before you start the journey. Sometimes, we make so many mistakes because of this thing I’m about to introduce to you— the spare tyre.

      THE SPARE TYRE

The spare tyre used here is not another man, but your emotions. One needs to set his or her emotions right so that if the tyre accidentally bursts (a break-up), you can handle it with ease. Some people lose their minds, some lose their sense of humour, and others even get to the extent of becoming mentally retarded due to a break-up. It’s not easy to handle a burst tyre (break-up) since it can land you into an accident (broken heart)—that’s why one needs to set his or her emotions right and prepare for any misfortune.

Thus, when the unfortunate happens, even though it hurts, you can handle it very well without getting crushed. I’m sure you know that there have been cases where some car tyres burst (break-up) without leading to an accident (broken heart). You can also handle break ups well without your life being shattered.

 Nhyira