Kelvin Vs Daniel Dilemma- Patricia's story

hey peeps....it's a beautiful day, make good use of it. what do you think Patricia should do after you read today's story?

Dear Nhyira,

I’m Patricia, a level 300 student at the University of Cape Coast offering Business In Administration. I’m in a relationship dilemma and I don’t know what to do. I’ve found myself on a path I never thought of. Nhyira, I’m currently in two relationships which are unintentional.

My first guy, I’ve been in a relationship with him for the past four years, he has introduced me to his parents and they really like me: always checking up on me. Unfortunately, when I got to level 200, I met a guy on campus who became my friend. We became very close and I felt like he was filling the distance between Kelvin (first guy) and I. Kelvin and I, sake of the distance between us now, since he is in a different school and town, has made the relationship to be only phone calls and Skype.

Due to this, my closure with Daniel (second guy) made me to fall for him and we’ve been dating for a year now without Kelvin’s notice. I think I don’t love Kelvin anymore but I’m not sure if it’s because of the distance between us now. I’ve been with Daniel for a year now but he is also immature since it is his first relationship so I’m always correcting him and he keeps repeating his mistakes’ which is taking a toll on me.

Nhyira, I’m confused, disturbed and uncomfortable cheating on Kelvin. I want to inform him of what I’ve been doing but I’m afraid he will be hurt since we’ve been first lovers for long and I lied to Daniel I’ve broken up Kelvin. What should I do?

SoMe BreaK uPs Are GooD- Obed's story

hey peeps.....it's been a while, hope y'all good? Today's post is a letter from Obed to y'all.

Dear Nhyira,

I’ve been in a relationship for two years but I recently broke up with my girlfriend. Well, some people might think I’m heartless but I made the best decision for her and myself. I wish I never started if I had learned more about relationship and life. I’m in level 300 and she is in level 200- both at Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology in Ghana; she is a medical science student and I’m a psychology student. Tracy as I call her will graduate in four years time and I would be graduating two years time. 

Nhyira, I’ve realized in two years time when I graduate, I’ve to do my national service for a year then I’ll start job hunting which means after my national service, the following year Tracy would be graduating as a medical doctor. The first thing after her graduation would be marriage which I will not be  financially sound by then to even rent a flat house, purchase a car to make life comfortable for her.

Moreover, her family will not permit their “doctor” daughter to live in a chamber and hall. All these thoughts made me to lose myself because I was always thinking about how to make life better for her therefore considering masters right from graduation which is still impossible. I always thought I was in a race with other guys for her.

Due to this, I met her and communicated these pertinent issues to her, she succumbed but felt hurt because she loves me, still understood my decision. I still love her but it’s better to be separated now than when we are both at our peak. If God wills and we meet again single in the future, I wouldn’t mind marrying her.

Now, you could be in a similar situation, it’s better to be out now than later. Be wise and make the best decision!!!! Always remember God first and stay blessed as Nhyira will say!!!

 

My Wife- Peter's Story

Hey peeps.... it's fridayyyyyy, weekend is approaching for us to enjoy and relax.

Nhyira, I was once reading a book which talked about love languages but I never believed it till I got married. When dating, I used to buy my fiancé gifts but all she would say was “thank you” but it wasn’t from a cheerful heart; little did I know it wasn’t her love language.

I’ve been married for five years now but it was o my second anniversary I discovered my wife’s love language. During our second year of marriage, we became very close, more than we were dating. I  put my ego aside and confided in her everything that bothered me and also, communicated my next projects to her. During those times of quality communication, she became so happy and lovely. I could see she was glowing every day. When I was on leave, I will spend most of the time in the house and I realized that made her more happy and lively.

I then discovered my wife’s love language is quality time and communication, so all those times I was buying her gifts, it was a waste. I wondered why I couldn’t find out early and I realized I assumed for her, since I love gifts I thought that will be her love language too.  Sometimes what you like will not necessary be what others like, take your time to study them and find out what they truly love or like.

Now, I am a happy husband and my marriage is flourishing with love, happiness, care, understanding and respect. Always remember God first and stay blessed as Nhyira will say.

Ingredients for SUCCESS

Hey dearies.... another day with an amazing Grace to improve upon yourself and let your light shine.

Always remember God first-stay blessed!
Nhyira

Is It Worth It?

Hey peeps........ today isn't just another day but an opportunity to better yourself!!
Is it Worth it ladies to lose  ourselves to irresponsible guys who won't lead us to a brighter future. Why do we keep losing our integrity and dignity? You need a responsible man who will cultivate you and bring out the best in you than a man who will just have his way in your life; make you a single mother and leave you to suffer all the days of your life!!!! it's a wake up call..... groom yourself to become a better person than fall prey to the tricks of irresponsible guys.

Is it Worth It?

Always remember God first-stay blessed!!
Nhyira

Marriage X Purpose

Hey peeps..... hope y'all are doing great?

Dear Nhyira,

I’ve been following your blog and I want to add more knowledge to your post concerning “why do we need a relationship? I must say your blog is very educative and I wish the youth will not only read but also practice it.

Nhyira, what connected me to my husband when we first met was PURPOSE. I attended a business seminar and he was the guest speaker. After his presentation, I asked him a mind blowing question “what makes you a man and a manager of your firm?” He was really thrilled at this question but after his answer, I realized he had a lot in him. I work in an I.T Firm because I love computers: always want to discover new ways of programming and he’s an I.T consultant in his own firm.

After the Seminar, he approached me and smiled. We got talking and that led to us now husband& wife!! We had similar purpose; to bring new methods, ideas, approaches to this technological world. Purpose is the permanent connection that binds marriage. We are always together working, it’s our hobby now. It wasn’t my beauty, shape or the way I dressed that brought us together because these things will definitely fade away. Relationship is the state of connection but if the two people in love don’t find the right connection, it won’t last long. If it is beauty, shape, dressing to mention but few that connects you two, what if those things fade away, will you still love the person? All those things are temporary but Purpose is permanent.

My husband and I are so happily married for ten years and there hasn’t been a day for us to argue. He knows his roles in the marriage so as long as he keeps performing his roles and I also do mine; there is no room for argument. He loves me so much and I do too!! It’s better to be connected to someone by purpose than anything else. We enjoy one thing; I.T and we keep growing stronger every day by this bond God has given to us.

If Eve was presented to Adam to be a HELP-MEET, then GOD indeed is WISE to make PURPOSE the PERFECT Connector for Two SOULS to become One FLESH!! Young ones make the best decision. Be Inspired as Nhyira will always say!!!