Is there something called love language? Do we have a language lover’s use? What makes you moved or attracted more to your partner?
Well, after a few research, I discovered some school thoughts have this notion
that, there is indeed love languages partners use which draws them more close
to one another. You might be wondering what these love languages are? It’s not
something strange or new, you can even guess right now before I lay them down. Since
you are still guessing and can’t fetch the right answers, let me help you. These
love languages are touch, gifts, quality time, and communication and lastly,
service.
According to this school of
thoughts, when the two lovebirds understand each other’s love language, they
can be very intimate together.
Firstly, touch is a love language according to them and denotes that some
people are moved by it but in this context of relationship that leads to
marriage as a believer, you have to know your level of intimacy with your
partner. I know as a believer in a relationship, the highest touch should be
HUG! Anything extra should be possibly or forcibly prevented to avoid any immoral
sexual intercourse. The ways to express intimacy
in this love language is been a shoulder for the person to cry on, always
holding your partners hand for her to feel protected, hugging your lover as an
encouragement and a motivation but the lines have to be respected. Most ladies
are in this category with a few guys.
The second love language is gifts. You see your ability to buy
gifts for your partner is one of the ways to show intimacy to the people you
love and care. They see gifts as
precious things coming from a precious heart so, if you don’t buy them gifts,
it means you don’t love them. Most at times, the people in this category
are not looking for huge/expensive gifts; they are just looking for a little
thing that tells them you still care about them. Those who are always looking
for expensive gifts and disregard the little things are not in this category,
therefore beware of them for they have ulterior motives, they really don’t love
you.
The next love language is quality time. With this category, it
has both males and females. One way of expressing your love according to this
school of thoughts is to have quality
time with your partner thus move
away from other relations and unnecessary commitments to spend time with your
partner or fiance. The two of you can visit
interesting sites together, play a game, watch movies, go for concepts, eat
together at restaurants to mention but few.
Relationship that leads to marriage should not be that boring; there
has to be something that keeps it running and that is intimacy.
Moreover,
communication as a love language is one of the best tools to tighten bonds. Both
past and present, even the bible says we should confess our sins, enables
healing if you find a person who can keep your secrets confidently. Communication
is one best tool to express intimacy; it should not be one-sided, one person
willing to communicate all the time, rather both sides.
Finally, service is the last out of the five love languages, and most of
the people that have their love language to be service are males. Some say your
ability to serve them shows love sow them such a person, the one that can
really serve is those that appeals to his/her heart. An example is when my
friend Kay who was in a relationship
with two ladies had an accident but Jenny more than 400km from Kay came all the
way to serve him; dressed his wound and took proper care of him. Meanwhile,
Janet who was quite closer to Kay didn’t bother to take care of him but bought
him an expensive gift to wished him speedy recovery. Because of this, Kay grew
more found of Jenny and began to love her more than Janet. In the end, Kay
married Jenny and now they are happily married with two kids; boy and girl. This
is one of the many examples I have witnessed and runs in the world, most guys
love ladies that are willing to serve them and not those who are willing to
spend.
What then is your love language after reading this post , discover yours as well as your partner's own to keep spicing your relationships and marriage with strong intimacy.
Don’t miss my next post….. I’m
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Always remember God first- stay
blessed!!
Nhyira.
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